Friday 3 October 2014

Anorexia update!

Hey guys, so I have some pretty big news... I've been discharged! I'm officially anorexia free.
I've come to terms with the fact that once you have anorexia you have it for life, I still hear the voices and I know I will for the rest of my life. I'm still not happy with my weight but I would NEVER starve myself to be skinny.

After being discharged for about 3 weeks, I did have a relapse and OD'd on pain killers. The voices were more aggressive than they usually are and they were screaming things like 'you're fat' 'kill yourself' 'you don't deserve to be here' after having them controlled for so long it was overwhelming and I was already vulnerable due to being in a bad mood that day.
I've been put on 30 mg of anti-depressants instead of 20 mg and I'm still on anti-psychotics. I feel like the anorexia isn't the main thing that's bothering me anymore, it's the depression. I know I can get through it but at the time it's so mind consuming and you think you're never going to get through it. I have been admitted to the psychiatric ward at my local hospital and have a meeting with them at the end of this month. I don't want to go, but I know it's what I need to get better.

I have an amazing group of friends that help me out and I couldn't be happier with them! They're truly amazing.
School's not going so bad, I'm having second thoughts about what I want to do career wise and fancy something make-up/fashion related...
I'm going through lots of stress at the moment with exams/ school and all of that stuff, so I'm sorry for the lack of posts but I have some neat stuff coming your way!

That's pretty much it, hope you're all okay.

Lottie xxx

Wednesday 30 April 2014

Coping with depression

YAY a post!
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depression
dɪˈprɛʃ(ə)n/
noun
  1. 1.
    severe, typically prolonged, feelings of despondency and dejection.
    "self-doubt creeps in and that swiftly turns to depression"


Depression isn't something to take lightly. It's a serious mental illness. It's not a noun. Having depression is scary and horrible- like being stuck in a trap that you can't get out of. If you know anyone or think you may be suffering from depression get help as soon as possible. 
This 'coping with depression' was requested via Facebook. I've been, recently, put on anti-depressants (or as my family calls them 'happy pills') and they are working, it's sad that I can't be myself without taking a tablet but I'm happy. Finally. I am also getting psychotherapy for my depression. Here are some tips and tricks that have helped me in the past and present! 

Carry something.
Ok, this sounds really stupid but this has become a constant habit of mine that's generally worked! I, personally, carry around a blue marble stone with me everywhere I go and whenever I am having bad thoughts or someone says something triggering, I take hold of the stone and play with it. It completely takes my mind off of what I was previously thinking and occupies my mind. Try it, you'll be surprised!

Get plenty of sleep and turn off electronics.
When people are depressed they tend to have something similar to insomnia, and become restless at night. I found/ find it easier to get to sleep and night when I turn off my laptop/phone/ipod etc off 1 hour before I go to bed. The light from electronic devices cause your brain to think it's day time- when in fact it isn't, and it becomes harder for your brain to relax and realize it's bed time soon. Another thing that's tied in with sleep is getting to bed early! And by early I mean 8-9:30. It may seem ridiculous, but because you're going to bed so early, you wake up feeling refreshed and awake. 

Talk to someone.
 I can't stress enough how important this is! You have to let people know what's going on inside your head. You can't cope with depression on your own. Even if you think you're showing signs of depression you have to let someone know how you're feeling so they know what to look out for and seek help for you. If you have depression, it can be hard to open up to people and tell them what's really going on- and trust me I know, but you can't expect people to help you if you don't tell them what's going on and you can't get better without help.

Eat healthy foods, exercise and drink plenty of water.
Feeling and being healthy help your mind make healthy decisions and boost your 'happy' hormones. Even if it's a 10 minute walk, a piece of fruit and a little glass of water- it's a start! Try fit it in to your everyday routine and you'll be feeling and looking 10x better!

Look good.
Have a shower, curl your hair, put on make up and wear that dress you love! Make yourself feel pretty, it'll boost your self-confidence and you'll feel good about yourself! 

Get organised
The more organised you are, the less of a mess your brain will be. I find it useful carrying a little notepad and pen around with me to jot down things that pop in my head during the day, this way I don't forget and I'm not stressing out.

Join a club/ do something you love.
Joining a club or doing something that you enjoy it will help you make friends and distance your mind from all things depression, even if it's a little escape for 30 minutes a day.

I hope these tips help you in anyway/ shape or form. 
Love you all.
Lottie 
xx










Saturday 15 March 2014

Anorexia update.

Hey guys. This post might be quite long and all over the place but I haven't done an update yet so, here we go!

Since my 'Anorexia story' blog I've had a few ups and downs.

Around New Years I wasn't to sure if I even wanted to get better. I missed feeling light and skinny, I just didn't want to be scared any more. I think that's what has made recovery easier for me, is that I was so scared and I didn't want to be scared any more. I have- and still do have- days where I think I'm not going eat my dinner or I might try throwing up again. I think I might always have them thoughts, unfortunately.

A couple of weeks after writing that post I had 3 lots of self-harming and my biggest low. I was very vulnerable at night so that's when the anorexia voices would come out and play, one night it got to much and I was up till 1 am self harming. I did go in to my parents room afterwards screaming about being scared and fat, thinking that my parents weren't trying to make me healthy they where making me fat. They cuts I made have now turned in to scars, it's sad really because one night has effected my whole life now. I still managed to eat all my food and eat everything given to me but I was extremely depressed, therefore I had to go to the hospital and see my therapist and psychologist as soon as possible. My therapist did say that if it wasn't for my parents being so supportive and willing I'd be in hospital, I was on the edge of mad. 
Since then I have been put on 'Olanzapine' which is an anti-psychotic drug that helps me sleep at night and makes it easier push the anorexic voice away. 

Since then I have been moves on to phase 2 of my treatment: I am eating morning tea, lunch and after noon tea on my own now and no high calories! My therapist was very impressed with how quickly I have been moving forward, the only thing getting me down now is how I see my self and my body. I know now that I would never starve myself to get skinny, but I want to be skinny. I want to be healthy. So I have just finished body image work with a physio, this consisted of standing in front of a mirror and describing yourself as if to a blind man, however you can not use bad words like 'Fat', 'Chubby' and 'Ugly' the point of this exercise it to see your self as a whole, not little bits of you that you don't like. The physio has also given me 3 exercises, to stop wearing jerseys and get my arms out as they're something I'm self conscious about, to stop looking at people and wishing I was skinny like them but instead guess their age or something to distract myself from and finally join a club or a gym with friends to become healthy and fit.

I'm still going through recovery and everyday is a step forward to being myself again; however the sparkle has apparently returned!
I'm at a healthy 69.9kg. Getting help was the best thing that could have happened, right now I have all the things that anorexia promised me, sure I might not be skinny but I'm healthy and happy.

 Lowest weight: 36kg (I did not take photos)

 Weight now: 69.9kg








Thursday 16 January 2014

My struggles with anorexia nervosa


  1. anorexia
    ˌanəˈrɛksɪə/
    noun
  • lack or loss of appetite for food (as a medical condition).
  • an emotional disorder characterized by an obsessive desire to lose weight by refusing to eat.

I've always been the biggest of my friends, as they grew taller and slimmer, I stayed the same height and put on weight... It never really bothered me, I was never happy with my weight, but didn't have a bad body image.

I don't know why I became ill. I just remember being stressed all the time. Little things would turn in to big things. So, I feel back on my anorexia- it was almost a support system- it was there when I thought no one else was. 
There are a few things I could blame: 
  • Exams
  • Friends
  • School
  • Work
  • Home life 
But they never seem like good enough reasons? I guess everything just built up and it began to feel like I was carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders and my way of coping was to stop eating.
I began to lack energy and focus, therefore, I was dropping grades at school and started to lack motivation to catch up. I'd never been amazing at school, but I'd never been bad either- I hardly ever failed and always tried my hardest.
Around the same time- I'd fallen out with my best friend, she was practically my sister and she began to spread rumors around school that people believed... so I bunked 1 day of school and went to the local mall with 2 of my closest (now best) friends. Long story short, we got caught- I guess that's what you get when there's 5 unexplained absences. 
That's when school made me go see the councilor, they new it wasn't like me to do something like this and could see that my grades were dropping, so there must be some sort of explanation and so I ranted to the school councilor for 2 hours, about everything; even my eating and that I was eating under 300 calories a day.
I had told him how, I wouldn't have breakfast and I'd throw out my lunch, then I'd eat a small portion of dinner- literally not enough to feed a small child. As soon as we'd finished with the session he rang my dad in a state of worry that I was going to make my self ill, little did he know it was already too late.
My parents had already noticed a difference in my attitude and the way I looked, so it wasn't a surprise for them when I was diagnosed with anemia at my local doctors 2 days after the council session. 
From then on everything becomes a blur. I remember feeling more and more miserable with myself and began to self harm and so I was referred to my local hospital by my GP and was seen 3 weeks later.
It was there that I was diagnosed with anorexia nervosa and anxiety. 

Since then I've been put on something called the 'Maudsley approach'
Maudsley is basically a a family based treatment that consists of 3 steps.
Step 1: Weight gain- parents taking control.
Step 2: Regaining control- teen gaining back control.
Step 3: Dealing with the 'leftovers'- coping with anxiety and body image.
I'm currently working my way through step 1. I am having 3 meals and 3 snacks each day, with as many calories in each meal as possible.

I'm slowly becoming more like the Lottie my parents knew last year, I know that this won't last forever and sometimes is so hard to think positively when you're tied up in negative thoughts, but getting help was the best thing my parents could have done for me and if it wasn't for them, I would be in hospital right now fighting for my life.
I still have days where I think they're just doing this to 'make me fat' and I still have days where I'm so miserable and full of self hatred, but that's all a part of recovery and it's not easy.

I'm on my way to a healthy weight and a healthy life. In a way I wouldn't take back my anorexia, although it's my worst enemy,  it's going to teach me to love myself and not take anything for granted in the future.

I hope that sharing my my story will help some of you.
I'll try stay up to date, with how I'm going through recovery and if you have any questions at all feel free to drop them in the comments!
Thank you
xxx



Before anorexia 70 kg (November 2012)













Recovery 64 kg (January 2014)






Friday 10 January 2014

Introduction...



Hey everyone!
So before I start this blog, I thought it would be nice for you all to get to know me better!

My name is Charlotte- Elyse, but I prefer to be called Lottie. I am 16 and 6 months, I was born on the 31st day of July 1997.
When I was 12 I moved from Leeds, England to the other side of the word; New Zealand. I love it here, although I miss my family and the clothes, make-up and accessories are 3 times the price, moving to New Zealand really brought me out of my shell! When I lived in England, I feel like i was trying to be 18... wearing clothes that left nothing to the imagination, caking my face in make-up and not even doing it correctly, taking a handbag as a school bag and just generally trying to be more mature, when really I should have been trying to be the 12 year old I wanted to be!
 As soon as I got to New Zealand, that changed immensely. My school did not allow make-up, you weren't allowed to wear your hair down, you had to wear the required school uniform (which consisted of a knee length blue kilt, a blue polo top, black school shoes and a back pack!)... but I have never been happier. I went from a shy English girl hiding behind 3 layers of foundation, too a girl with courage and potential who doesn't need 'good looks' to get her by. I have always been in love with fashion and make-up, hopefully the tips and tricks I have up my sleeve will inspire you on a day to day basis!
Another reason I decided to start this blog is more serious. 2013 has been one of the hardest year of my life. I was recently diagnosed with anorexia nervosa and anxiety, I won't talk about my illnesses on this post; but I will make a separate blog about it at some point... Though my main focus will be beauty and fashion related, I did realize that maybe my story or experiences could help some of you, whether you're going through something similar to myself, need help with school and stress or just a little pick me up!
It would mean a lot if you could follow me on the following twitter- @LottieEHartley
                                                                                    Instagram- @Lottieenhartley

Thank you so much and I hope you enjoy my blog!
Lottie
xx